We’ve all been there, haven’t we? My first wife, long, long ago, raged that arguing with me was like “talking to a wall.” I wasn’t into the arguments thing, had never had a battling relationship and wasn’t ready to start.

By David Stone

Assorted Ideas, Large & Small

So, I can’t say I disagreed. Or that I didn’t enjoy the tactic.

I’ve thrown that insult in frustration myself, a few times.

But until today on West 23rd Street in New York City, I thought of it as more like a metaphor.

Some other New York City views like Talking To A Wall…

• Uncertain Shoes
• When Gucci Turns Ugly
• New York Skyline Fog
• New York City or Oz

Then, I saw this woman literally talking to a wall. It was a granite wall between Eataly and its wine shop. The only surprise — she seemed pretty happy to be going at it.

I wondered if I was missing something. Was she a rock climber? An urban geologist? An architect admiring the building material?

Here’s what the Urban Dictionary says…

Talking without receiving any kind of reaction or response from the person you’re speaking to; Or talking to someone and they react or respond as if you never said what you just said to them.

“I poured my heart out to her and she just stared at me with a blank expression on her face. It was like talking to a wall!”

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